….. It Awaits in the Darkness
The lights are low…..
You're with the person of your dreams….
The wine is flowing….
And you're waiting for the opportune moment….
"Sweetie, you know I like you right, and I really want to take our friendship further."
She gazes at you with a twinkle of candlelight in her eyes….
"Will you be my girl?"
The winds howls in the background overlapping the Marvin Gaye. She wipes her mouth with a napkin and drinks some more red wine.
"Awww, I like you to………. But I see you like a brother, and I don’t want to mess up our friendship."
"NNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!"
THE FRIENDSHIP ZONE…
Once you're in there is no turning back. Rated TS { That Sucks}
I'm sure some of us have had to live that movie rather you're a female or male. My question is how do you recognize if you're in the friendship zone? Is there a way to get out, or are you stuck forever?
4 comments:
aaaah the friendship zone... what a subject..
The friendship zone can work a couple diff ways. Sometimes chics put guys in the friendship zone because they know ultimately that situation would not work out, and they wouldn't want to lose a good friend. (I'm sure guys do this too)
Another reason could be that the person truly only likes you as a friend.
I don't think there's a straight formula for being able to tell. Every situation, person, is going to be unique.
There are 2 types of friendship zones:
1) She only sees you as a friend, ever.
2) She sees you as a friend...for right now.
How do you recognize that you're in the friendship zone?
If she has not mentioned you to or you haven't been introduced to her friends...if she only talks to you about the SAME things (i.e., work, what she ate for dinner)...
Oh...and (because some guys really don't know)...if she ever starts talking to you about another man...then yes, you are just her friend.
The question of whether you can ever be more than that can only be determined through time. With that being said, you should continue to be her friend if you can accept her decision. It would show maturity on your end--you never know what could happen...she may see you as more because of it or this may prepare you for someone else.
You can leave the friendship zone .. tell the person you want to be more than friends and see what they say, you may risk loosing them as as friend if they don't have those mutual feelings for you, once you tell them how you really feel , they may feel awkward around b/c they know you really want more and you can't be that friend that gives advice or have they back when it comes to the opposite sex, bc they know deep down you want them and you may not have thier best intrest at heart when it comes to another guy.. but I say follow your gut. That person may feel the same way about you!!! Either way itr goes you have to leave the zone or else you will be miserable holding this in..
I think you know when you are in the friendship zone. You can tell if a person is feeling you on another level or not. But if a male or female tells you they are not looking for anything they only want and have friends . If that is where you are in your life, then be their friend. But are you stuck in the friendship zone forever? No, once you feel yourself developing feelings for your friend then tell them, they may feel the same way. But keep in mind there is a time and place for everything, you don’t want to feel awkward or make that person feel awkward by telling them at the wrong time. And prepare yourself for the response. Whether its what you wanna hear or not. Keep an open mind. Some people may actually want more than a friend but they don’t wanna come off desperate or maybe they just wanna take the time to get to know you so they put you in the friendship zone.
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