Ms. Independent…Not enough?

I was on the phone with one of my friends that live in Charlotte the other day and she was talking about the dating scene. She is what Neo would call (Ms. Independent) which a lot of women are around here nowadays. Yet just like so many other Independent woman she is single and struggling to find her a good guy. Its not like there aren’t any guys out there but just like many other woman she has an old mind set. Convo:

Her: “I’m at this party and I see guys just chilling and hanging out with each other instead of approaching the ladies.”

Me: “If you saw something you like why didn’t you go approach him?”

Her: “I’m not approaching any guy, that’s the man’s job! No woman who got it going on will do that! Guys need to man up.”

Me: “Umm, there is a 16 to 1 ratio in Charlotte, they can look at 15 more females…”

Case in point there is a 16 to 1 ratio in Charlotte, and there are a lot of females that are doing their thing. This is Charlotte, second largest banking city in the U.S.! Look it’s time to get out of that mode of thinking “The man needs to approach me!” To be real we’re not the one’s struggling to find a partner; there is a flooded market of great woman here in Charlotte. It’s time for woman to stop with that thinking and “GET AGGRESSIVE.” Go and snatch you up a man, because these younger Independent women are getting hip to the game. They are aggressive and men like that in women especially these days.

Convo:

Me: “Look you need to get out there and grab you a man, it’s not looking pitiful, it’s a new age and a new day.”

Her: “Whatever, I shouldn’t have to lower my standards to get a man.”

Me: “You’re not lowering your standards, but you do need to change your tactics. Do you want to be one of those girls going to every party, but still coming out empty? You think you’re the only hot chick at the party? Lol, you don’t want to be one of those chicks 30 years old still going to parties looking for a man.”

Her: “Whatever, when the right man comes along then that’s what it is.”

It’s time ladies to forget that past stuff, and go and be aggressive, you don’t look like a loser but there is strong competition out on these streets, and it doesn’t help that some Charlotte men are looking at the other nationalities, I bet they were aggressive getting their man. Being independent and stuff just isn’t good anymore, it’s a plus, but competition is fierce!!! Good Luck!